Rebuke Unkind Speaking
- Date: April 15, 2019
- Teacher: Pastor Star R. Scott
- Scripture: “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:” (Ephesian 4:26)
- From Tongues Of Fire II
We've talked about these things that we've found in our midst. We're been dealing with things in our midst of this same variety of which we're speaking. Strife, division, schisms, seditions. And we find it in every level from the youth to the oldest among us. And there's no place for this in the body of Christ. And we talk, and I believe that we're so sincere-I don't doubt that. I believe that we are thankful for one another. I really do, I believe that most of us here are truly appreciative of this family that God's given us. I believe that. And we're all along the same journey. And we're all fighting the same devil. And we're all fighting the same power of sin that's in our members. The one that we can all identify with, every one of us, so readily: We are selfish. A people still under the influence of our father Adam's transgression. And how we daily have to be aware of that and daily reckon ourselves dead indeed unto sin and alive to Jesus! Daily taking up that cross and crucifying this old man. "I die daily" (1 Corinthians 15:31). This old guy has got to die daily. And if we don't, Satan takes advantage of us, and we find ourselves in conflicts, giving place to the devil, grieving the Holy Spirit.
You know, we read all of these passages here in Ephesians, and it just comes and equates what Jesus spoke in the Sermon on the Mount. It's been referred to for millennia as "the golden rule." But I wonder how things would change among us if we would just treat others the way we want to be treated. That's the commandment of the Head of the church. When we come home and we lay our head on the pillows at night after our daily devotions, after we've so disciplined ourselves to rise up and do our devotions in the morning, and we share Jesus with somebody at work. But when it's time to put our heads upon the pillow and it's time to go to sleep, how have we treated others? How did you treat your wife before the lights go out? What was the environment in the home before we all closed down the day and let the sun go down? Is there wrath? Is there division? Is there sedition that's not been dealt with? Has it become so common that we just accept it in our homes? Have we finally-after thirty years of marriage-just said, "Well, that's just how they are"? We just tolerate it. We just tolerate Dad. You know, his tirades. "Be angry and sin not" (Ephesians 4:26). There is no place for anger in the expression of it. The misuse of authority in the homes. There's no place for us to entertain children's criticisms, judgments, complaints, if you please, about Dad and how he's overseeing the household. "Other parents allow their kids to do this, how come we can't?" That's all the same spirit; you can find it in all of these areas that are not exhibiting obedience and humility. And we could go through and just point out all kinds of different circumstances, so we want to go to the core of this and really see it for what it is: The self-will.
This thinking of ourselves so highly that our perception has become truth, and then we express it so readily. And give place to it. And allow people around us to stay in bondage. Oh, beloved, "[l]et no corrupt communication, proceed out of your mouth but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers" (Ephesians 4:29). As that becomes part of our lives, we're not going to be able to sit around and listen to a lot of the comments. And tragically, moms, many of you were letting things slide that your children are making as observations of how the home is being operated. What part of that was edifying? What part of that comment and that observation is ministering grace? How many of you are thankful for grace? Then shouldn't we minister it? Freely receiving, shouldn't we always be ready to show grace and mercy to those that are around us? This spirit He speaks to us of in verse 31 where He says, "I want you to come this place where all evil speaking is put away and be kind! Just be kind!" Shouldn't we be able to now stand and look our friends in the eyes as they begin to speak other than that which is edifying and bring grace? Shouldn't we be able to look at them and say, "Is that kind? Is that kind that you just said? Was that edifying"? When's the last time you spoke to someone? You might not even agree with what they are saying, but you are listening to it. You're not bringing reproof and rebuke and instruction through the Word of God that the body of Christ might be edified and built up so that Satan can't take advantage of us. Yes, it's your place to speak toward these things.